By definition, the word "resilient" refers to a person who is able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. After being bent, stretched or broken, the person is able to spring back, rebound and readily recover. To me, there are two people in my life who exemplify this word, and they are my husband and my daughter.
My partner for life, my best friend, my husband, he shows grace through his actions. He embraces strength as he guides our family through some of the hardest seasons of our lives. My husband has been a part of my life since I was initially diagnosed with Major Depression, and he married me just months before my diagnosis changed to Bipolar Disorder. Without complaint, he takes time off work to drive me two hours every few months to see my surgeon. And throughout my various illness battles, he never has animosity towards the situation. Instead, he handles it with precise direction towards helping me remain healthy.
My partner for life, my best friend, my husband, he shows grace through his actions. He embraces strength as he guides our family through some of the hardest seasons of our lives. My husband has been a part of my life since I was initially diagnosed with Major Depression, and he married me just months before my diagnosis changed to Bipolar Disorder. Without complaint, he takes time off work to drive me two hours every few months to see my surgeon. And throughout my various illness battles, he never has animosity towards the situation. Instead, he handles it with precise direction towards helping me remain healthy.
When I think about my husband, I recall various situations where he exhibited resilience. For example, while I was resting during COVID quarantine, he spent over 4 hours rearranging our bedroom. He did this because he wanted me to have a new start as I healed and recovered from this experience. As my partner, he keeps his stresses and worries to himself in order to protect me from the emotional battles he withstands. Amongst the chaos, he makes it a point to have hobbies that give him a break so that he can recharge and rejuvenate his emotional self.
Secondly, my daughter is also resilient in many ways. She has grown up with a Mommy who is sick, and has learned about my health issues at a very young age. Throughout this process, my daughter struggles with feelings of anger, sadness and worry. Even though she is scared that something bad could happen to me, she does not allow herself to live within the confines of those feelings. Instead, she bounces back from negativity and asks poignant questions about my health. This helps her learn more about my illnesses and provides her a safe space to feel positive emotions related to my healing and recovery.
Unfortunately, my daughter has found me under a blanket in tears, she was witness to our cat dying of cancer, and she missed her winter concert because we had to call the paramedics for me. However, she perseveres through all of the challenges that life has thrown her direction. She is able to look to her own future without fear of meeting my needs in the present moment. My daughter goes to school and sporting activities with a huge smile on her face, excelling as a brave and intelligent child.
When I reflect on how much I have overcome, I think back on how much my husband and daughter have believed in me and supported me. I am blessed by their presence in my life and love how we journey through life together. I lean into how far the 3 of us have come and I look forward to how much life we still have yet to live. And I proudly wear high heels not only for myself but for my husband and daughter who love and support me day in and day out.
Love Note: With all my heart, I genuinely request that due to the content written, please seek the guidance of professional help should you feel you need it.
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