My question to my husband was this: Is it ok to be a stay-at-home mom? Can I use that language when I talk to people? Because I am tired of telling people, "I am sick. I am on disability. I am not working right now."
His response was written as follows:
Yes you can say you're a full time stay-at-home mom... However you feel is best to put a label on your current role in today’s society.
In my opinion, every person adds value to this world whether they believe they do or not. It’s in each one of us to find that value and purpose in each day. The way we phrase value or purpose gives meaning to each day or each moment. No one moment needs to be perfect or absolute, it just needs to be yours. You own the moment you own the value and purpose and you celebrate you.
Each day, a new value, a new purpose, a new version of self will evolve and no two days are the same. So just know it’s ok if today’s purpose is self care or rest because each day your needs, your feelings, and your outlook is your own. And this is unique to you. Live your life for you and not for others because at the end of the day, the person in the mirror is the one you're living with.
The one role, the one person, the one hat you will always have no matter what is a "Mom". You are a mom and that forever is part of your person. So go ahead and shout to the world if you like, "I am the best Mom my daughter can and will ever have and no one can take that from me"! So yes, you are a Mother who indeed does stay at home. But you also do so much more than you give yourself credit for.
Be bold. Be brave. Be you. You are valued, you are loved, and you are appreciated for just being you. We all must learn to love ourselves and that is a process always under construction.
You don’t need my approval or anyone else's approval but you do need your own approval. So ask yourself, "Do you approve of living for yourself"? If you answered yes, then know you have already won the day, the week, the month and the year.
In my opinion, every person adds value to this world whether they believe they do or not. It’s in each one of us to find that value and purpose in each day. The way we phrase value or purpose gives meaning to each day or each moment. No one moment needs to be perfect or absolute, it just needs to be yours. You own the moment you own the value and purpose and you celebrate you.
Each day, a new value, a new purpose, a new version of self will evolve and no two days are the same. So just know it’s ok if today’s purpose is self care or rest because each day your needs, your feelings, and your outlook is your own. And this is unique to you. Live your life for you and not for others because at the end of the day, the person in the mirror is the one you're living with.
The one role, the one person, the one hat you will always have no matter what is a "Mom". You are a mom and that forever is part of your person. So go ahead and shout to the world if you like, "I am the best Mom my daughter can and will ever have and no one can take that from me"! So yes, you are a Mother who indeed does stay at home. But you also do so much more than you give yourself credit for.
Be bold. Be brave. Be you. You are valued, you are loved, and you are appreciated for just being you. We all must learn to love ourselves and that is a process always under construction.
You don’t need my approval or anyone else's approval but you do need your own approval. So ask yourself, "Do you approve of living for yourself"? If you answered yes, then know you have already won the day, the week, the month and the year.
Let your actions be your words and proof of self-confidence as who you are in this moment. Never worry about what others think or say. Because the only person who can judge you is you. Today and everyday be the stay-at-home mom because every day, our daughter will need her mom.
Let go of the old terms, conditions and labels. Just like bad food, they expired a long time ago. So don’t keep that old rotten piece of fruit any longer. Toss it in some soil and water it because tomorrow it may blossom into an apple tree.
Love Note: With all my heart, I genuinely request that due to the content written, please seek the guidance of professional help should you feel you need it.
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